How do you need to be seen today 👀

Originally, this week’s newsletter was going to be about a new phrase I may have coined (according to google’s lack of matching search results 😂) called Need Fatigue. But something truly amazing happened, and as I felt into my gut about what to write…I decided Need Fatigue will have to wait another week or so. So stay tuned my friend, and buckle in for a little story time and important question I have for you 🥰
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Yesterday was Meal Prep pickup day, and on my way in to open shop I realized that I forgot to create the heat up instructions 🤪 No big deal at the end of the day since they could technically be emailed, but I’ve set an expectation that zero people know about other than me, and I wanted to make sure I hit it (insert a loving 🙄 towards myself as I reflect back on this). My thoughts quickly started to move from “No biggie! I totally got this” to the lie of “My entire business and worth as a human is hinging on the creation of these heat up instructions before anyone finds out I didn’t do them, and I have so much to doooooooooo, how am I going to do it all”. Relatable? I hope not, but I feel like our thoughts going from 0-100 is part of the general human experience and something you may be able to relate to!
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On top of the misplaced pressure I put on myself, on Tuesdays, my youngest always stops in with my ex on their way to school, which is awesome to get to see her, but i’m always at odds when I feel like I can’t be fully present with her and am running around trying to do way too much at one time, which of course, fed the lie of I am a worthless human that can’t even be present for her kid in addition to not having something done on time (another loving 🙄).

And then, the worst-case scenario my racing thoughts convinced me of actually happened…a Meal Prepper came in for her order AND I DIDN’T HAVE THE HEAT UP INSTRUCTIONS DONE, plus I was patiently trying to show my daughter how to ring her out, and not let my anxiety get the best of me and take it all over. Our guest was beyond gracious and seemed unfazed as I did my best not to show my frazzled cards as she headed out the door with her goodies.
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So fast forward a bit, daughter happily bounces her way out the door and heads off to school, I get the heat up instructions done, email them to our guest 😮‍💨 and really begin to notice how off I’m feeling and how much harder than usual it is to challenge the beliefs I know aren’t true.

I take moments as I can throughout my shift to take deep, nourishing breaths and ensure I’m staying hydrated, fed, and engaged in giving myself grace for what I can’t seem to get done, despite my best efforts…and then it happened…

The guest texted me back…and while my mind had me convinced that she was indeed disappointed, this is what the text said:

“Thank you!! I hope your day is great – you seemed a little frazzled this morning. I’ve been thinking about you and want you to know that I see you!!! The hard work and love you are putting into be. is noticed!!! I may be a new customer, but I see a brave woman in you!”

😭😭😭😭

I cannot read this without tears coming to my eyes. To have someone I don’t know well (yet 😉), take the time to notice, and respond in such a kind way, to be seen and affirmed so purely, especially when I was being so hard on myself, well, it just really reminded me that everything has been and is ok, and also that I’m doing the best I can, and that is enough ❤️

2 things struck me:

1️⃣ How powerful our words are that we choose to share with ourselves and others. If you find yourself being unkind to yourself, know that is not your truest essence. Take time to pause, get curious, and use this as an opportunity to lean in to love yourself even more and know that the more you practice kindness and love towards yourself, the easier it is to shine that out into the world to others that may be struggling loudly or quietly 💗
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2️⃣ How do you need to be seen today? I would love to affirm you 💖 Just click this link to send me an email with one word (or many – you know I love words 😂) and I will send you back the message that comes up for you directly from my heart.